One Sided Love

"The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, goes out of your life without saying anything"



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I was just thinking of what my next post should, when my friend preethi gave an excellent idea.

What better topic could i have chosen rather than this.



Everyday for the past 1 year I have told myself what an idiot I am. The reason why I'm an idiot is because of myself. I have made myself the idiot I am today.


2 years ago l met a man who would change my life forever. I was much too young to understand that one day that one look would be all I thought about. Consumed by him we stumbled upon more than just an average first love, it was something amazing something l wanted to keep forever. However, like life, everything that is good has a bad to it. I could never say this before, but I think one word to describe love is powerful. Internet love is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s just something you have to let your self dream about and dreaming well we did a lot of that. He was the missing piece of my life something that l had always dreamt about and didn’t have.
I dated this guy for almost a year. He was my first love. While we were dating I let others influence me into thinking that he wasn't a good boyfriend which was indeed true. I didn't know what I was getting into but i guess one person surely did. She kept telling me don't trust him but I didn't even bother to hear and that was the biggest mistake of my life. I truly loved him but he didn't love me back. He had other ideas with me and that really shattered me. I was devastated. Had I listened to her, I wouldn't had to go through this horrendous pain. But they say "Time heals all your pains" and its very much true.


One-sided love is the greatest sin one can ever commit in this earth. One-sided love generates lots and lots of negative energy, which not only harms the lovelorn lover physically and mentally, it can really harm anyone who comes close to him/her. This negative energy makes the bereft lover very much upset, who in turn shows agitated behavior to anyone who comes to his/her contact. Never get indulged in one-sided love. If someone rejects your proposal of love, then immediately get him/her out of your heart. Never keep a minute fraction of his/her remembrance in your mind and heart.

Does one sided love ever work?

Not all the time, since you cannot make someone love you. If they cannot love you then they can't. Sometimes it does work, but you have to be very very patient and only if that person is WORTH it and if they are not you should move on.

• One-sided love is not fair to either person. Also, relationships are hard enough to keep even when both people are actively in love with one another. You cannot make it happen on your own. Best to throw this fish back into the sea and look for love elsewhere.
  

• No one can have a happy existence and grow from happiness if they are in love with someone, but are not loved back. It causes arguments, suspicion, generally cheating on the partner and a great deal of stress.

• The pain of this horrendous situation "One sided Love" unless you are a victim of it. I know it is very difficult situation to be in and I wish no one falls in this kind of situation because the result is surely going to be very, very painful and one might end up running his/her life, but still I think if in any case you have been in this kind of situation what you need to do is to try to find happiness in the happiness of your mate......and please don't wait for him/her to come back into your life because it's true that you can't make anybody love you forcefully; just believe in your destiny and maybe something very sweet is waiting for you in your life.

• Here's what you can try to make "One sided Love". Have you ever been told "I don't love you the way you love me." That is just an easy out. You need to remember there had to be love to keep a relationship going. 99 precent of the time just taking a break from each other for a while. Will rekindle the feelings each of you have had for each other. Not to mention it will make the relationship stronger in the end. This method will reduce stress, and anxiety in each of you. You may also try to go to couple counseling to resolve these issue's A third party that doesn't know each of you will not take side's. There is always hope in these kind of relationships.

Handling Criticism

Handling criticism has much in common with handling failure, and indeed, criticism and failure frequently present themselves together. Thus, when you fail to do something properly it is possible that you will be criticized for it as a result.

The natural immediate response to criticism is to feel discouraged and unhappy. However, as with failure, criticism has a very positive side. In the first place, if you are being criticized it may well be an indication that you have taken a risk and chosen to tackle something which is a challenge to you. Receiving such criticism may be infinitely preferable to being praised for something which is simple and predictable. Secondly, as with failure, criticism may be regarded as valuable feedback and a necessary part of the learning process. Unless your tutor criticizes deficiencies in your essay you are unlikely to go on to better things.

In some situations criticism may be unjustified. (For example, note that even musical geniuses like Mozart and Beethoven often received bad reviews!) If you feel that this is the case, you should try to respond courteously, but assertively. This may be difficult, especially if the other person is your senior.

It can be difficult to deal with destructive, hostile criticism, and this can be especially hurtful to somebody who has low self-esteem. The main aim is to remain assertive and not mirror the critic's behavior by responding aggressively. Since destructive criticism often arises from jealousy and spitefulness, the best policy may be to ignore it.


Aim to develop a positive attitude to any criticism which comes your way. See it as a way of gaining self-understanding and as a contributor to your personal development. Unjust and destructive criticism can make serious demands on your inter-personal skills, and it can therefore be worthwhile developing these skills by attending assertiveness and other similar workshops. You should also seek to nurture your self-esteem, so that you are less susceptible to the negative effects of criticism.

About Me

I really had to fight my inner demons to blog...
Finally, I won. I was just downloading sum software when decided to join d blog spot.....

Sum time back a friend of mine called Aditi told me about blogs and how much fun it is. Though at that time i dint find it interesting. Soon after that day,she joined a blog. Now after reading her posts, I have become a fan of blog.
I really enjoyed her very first post and every time i log on to orkut or ma mail account i just peep on her blogger site to read her posts. But then i remind myself that she has just started. I'm truly inspired by her.
Thanks Adi :P